confusion

i get scallions and shallots mixed up all the time.

Budgeting

My newfound hobby: Budgeting

At first I dreaded it.  There was just too much to account for, especially with two people with multiple bank accounts and credit cards.  But, since high school, I was so curious to know how and where my money went in, out or stayed.  I didn't want any mere estimates or generalizations -- I wanted to know where each penny was going, to the T.

These were my attempts in the past
- In high school, I carried around a notepad and tried writing down the spendings on a notebook and punch them into a calculator.  I even would carefully select and purchase a cute Korean money spending tracker notepad.  That seemed to help a bit, but all I can tell you was that the record keeping didn't last more than a month.
- In college, I used Minted.  But some of the spendings would be placed in the wrong categories causing me to spend more time editing and carefully looking through if things were categorized correctly.  That lasted longer, but not much--maybe two, three months?
- This past year, I tried YNTB, but it was just basically an excel sheet with a few fancy buttons.  It was an application that I definitely could have done myself with a computer excel sheet.  Thus, waste of subscription money.

So, I took it into my very own hands since this past January and started with the technological basics: the excel sheet.  It was just me, my laptop, excel, simple formulas and perusing of hundreds of bank statements.  It was difficult to face the numbers for a long while because we had to fly to California so often and Alex was the breadwinner on a resident salary (I was waiting for my optometric license to get in)--all I could tell you was that we were in the red for a long long time.  Once I got the grasp of how much we were making together and how much we were spending, I found myself writing furiously in notebooks and extrapolating figures during my work breaks, then updating it onto my laptop as soon as I came home.  I was checking out finance books from the library and reading about them online.  I'll admit, I was late in the growing-up game with this whole finance thing, but everything was finally making sense.  Also, I remember thinking to myself, 'Man, I used to be one of those kids who used to scoff at the boring adults reading through dense boring money books, and here I am, at 29 years old, hungrily going through personal finance articles.'

Now, I absolutely LOVE punching in the numbers, extrapolating, and determining out how much we spend on what, how much we can save, where we can save, what goes into taxes, how much is needed to buy a car, house and much much more! I would put in every single spending (name, date, category, cost) and color code them, pie chart and compare each month.  I even calculated how much I spend on skin care and make up every year (less than $700) and graphed the utility bills to see how much electricity or water bill goes up per season.

In the end, it led me and Alex to proudly pay off all the student loans last week!

Weeeee!  I can't wait for the new year :)

Happy One Year Anniversary and Baptism!

Holy moly, I've been married for a whole year!  I can't believe that we hit the one year mark.  Let alone, I still can't believe I am married!  Every month or so, I would tell Alex, "Honey, I can't believe I am married."  And he would look at me, slightly offended and confused, because he believes it and it's very real to him.  But, I can't help it--I just can't believe it sometimes!

It was truly a difficult year, especially for Alex--first year residency, adjusting to each other, moving (twice!), figuring out how to make a home, waiting for jobs, juggling in between jobs, flying back and forth cross-country multiple times, and losing a very precious loved one.  But we made it and I am so incredibly proud of us: finished first year residency, started working at Wills Eye hospital, found a church that we love and are committed to, and finished paying off student loans.

It definitely smoothed out and felt more stable within the past two, three months.  God has been sovereign and good, and time and time again, I am reminded that His plans are much greater than our own.  And I love that.

Year One - Nov 19, 2017

HAHA BTW THIS IS TRUTH!  My sister sent this to me after I told her about being frustrated about Alex taking the dinner leftovers ALL THE FREAKIN TIME.  I would work so hard on the meals, then he would take it for his own lunch the next day and he would innocently tell me, "Honey, we shouldn't eat out as much and pack our own lunches to save money."  WHAT DO YOU EXPECT ME TO EAT THEN, HMMM?? HMMMMMMM??????  I tried to pick a fight with him about it, but he gently diffused the situation by saying that he would pack PBJs and that we can save the leftovers for the next dinner.  *sigh* Thanks honey <3 . I love you, Alex.  Life is so much warmer with you.

Also on this day, I finally got baptized again.  I wanted to since the 9th grade.  I know it's not an excuse, but there were so many moving pieces and big life events in between that time.  But I am so happy to be baptized and declare my Christian faith to the public that Jesus is my Lord and Savior.  Amen, amen, amen!

Latest obsessions

1. swimsuits from "everything but water" - they are so pretty and cute, just makes me want to take a holiday by a warm beach in Hawaii
2. house plants - i love the ones that look painted like calatheas :)
3. leather bags - still trying to find a more affordable amazing quality bags, but my ultimate favorite will always be celine.  lately my eyes have been on building block and marni.  i still have aspirations of designing my own...
4. handmade ceramics - dying to take a ceramics class - earthy and natural <3

timeless obsessions:
1. coats - i love a good a-line coat
2. hats - just bought a fall hat a few weeks back :) on the hunt for summer hats that are on sale now
3. installations
4. summers

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do i dare to...
1. purchase an "over the knee boots"?
2. make my own clothes?  learn to sew?  just because i have a thought of how i want my clothes to look like, doesn't mean i can make it well :(
3. get a wacom to doodle with computer media?

it seems like i still have a good amount of aspirations ! let's not throw away our dreams now !

i have no desire to have children at the moment, it scares me... am i too focused on myself?  am i too selfish?

Why is it that

at a time, when I have the least amount of money saved up, I want to spend the most?

Why is Mansur Gavriel's ocean bag so dang cute?

Like my sister asked, "What do you put in there??"

I don't know.  Keys. A mere wallet. A wavy wig.

Resuscitate!

So much has been going on.  Will try to blog and post pictures more often so that I have a record of my silly thoughts and feelings.

1. We moved!  Oh, I already told you this.  Life is so much better here.

2. Came back from California with a heavy heart.  There definitely has been mountains to climb, as Alex's mother had been battling pancreatic cancer for so long.  Will update on a different post.  This experience has changed perceptions and reminded me of how precious each, even ordinary, day is.

3.  I started working for Wills Eye Hospital.  I can't believe it.  Me, out of all people.  ME!

4. I have so many projects I would like to start.  I have already become more settled in the new place (still need to organize and file things) and am ready to use my spare time to work on projects I have always wanted to do with the support of Alex.  

5.  Last winter was the worst winter of my life.  So incredibly difficult that stretched me in all directions.  I am determined to conquer this one.  Fall here is beautiful.  I honestly have no qualms with Philadelphia after we moved to the burbs.

I leave you with this.  I love Korean commercials.  They are just so dang good.  Clean, wonderful lighting, humor and all that jazz.

"난! 엄마는 왜계인!"

*buaaaaaahhhhh*

Working part time

100k

not bad, Sandra, not bad.